Study, Snow + Shanghai

Wow! What a busy couple of months it has been!

I celebrated my 25th birthday on the 28th of July (hello fellow Leos!) and was absolutely spoiled by all my friends, family and my beautiful partner Nick.

I also attended a few furnishing and décor exhibitions as part of my role as Editor at Furnishing International. I absolutely love discovering new businesses and the faces behind the brands. This very rewarding role will now see me head to Shanghai, China in September – a nerve-racking yet exciting prospect as it will be my first time travelling alone. Any tips or tricks from anyone who has travelled to China, please feel free to comment below to educate this rookie! My visa has been granted, flights booked and accommodation sorted. All that’s left is to pack!

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Many tried to discourage me from embarking on a career in journalism however I am now thankful that I stayed true to my passion. If it were not for my qualifications and position in this role, I may not have otherwise had the opportunity to travel to Shanghai and explore a new city.

I was saddened to have lost my one year anniversary gift from Nick on the way home from one of the Melbourne furnishing exhibitions however. A beautiful fine chain necklace, which must have somehow broken and fallen from around my neck on the train ride home. I was absolutely devastated by this – but I am now slowly coming to terms with the fact that I will not be able to retrieve it. As Nick loves to say, ‘it is, what it is!’

I also went to the snow for the very first time and absolutely loved it! We couldn’t have picked a day with better conditions – sunny blue skies and fresh, fluffy snow in plentiful amounts. Check out some pictures below:

My crystal healing course has also been going well. I am very much enjoying learning about how to practically help people by using crystals and by adopting healthy lifestyle habits. My Instagram and this associated blog will now be geared towards all the things I love more so. You’ll get to read and see inspiration for all the good stuff – yoga, meditation, crystals and self-care.

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On a final note, I have also been keeping busy with the launch of my very own copywriting and social media business. Be sure to check out www.contentsavvy.com.au for all the details!

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Love and light everyone,
– you’ll be seeing a lot more of me on here!

X Cat

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Study, Snow + Shanghai

Timing doesn’t heal all wounds

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When you break up with someone, there’s no real handbook to tell you how to best deal with it. Sure, there’s many self help books out there, but what works for one person, may not work for you. Ultimately, you have no choice but to figure it out on your own, with time your biggest hurdle in restoring happiness to your life once again. 

But time has a funny way of playing tricks on you. Sometimes a year feels like not long ago, sometimes you only met someone a month ago but it feels as though you’ve known them for a lifetime. Likewise, timing can be problematic when dealing with the end of a relationship. 


One day, you’re together. The next you’re not, and before you know it, two years have flown by and you’re left wondering where the hell the last 24 months went? You know that you’ve changed in that amount of time, however a small part of you has immortalized your former lover in a world that’s stuck two years prior. How strange it is to think that you know all this information about a human being. Their likes and dislikes, or their favorite movie or genre in music, only to separate and to have no use for this information anymore. 

The trouble is, this old information is deceiving, because the person you knew and loved two years ago, has now changed, just as you have, and realizing this can be difficult to come to terms with. 


As many of you know, my long journey of healing had for the most part been dealt with, or so I thought. Unfortunately, in this age of social media, it’s much easier to know people’s business, and friends of friends will talk, and things will get back to you. This is how new information on a former partner will slowly filter its way to you, and just when you think that you’ve dealt with everything that needs to be dealt with, a trigger will occur and you’ll find yourself asking – why do I care? Why has this effected me? And why am I upset? 

Yep, this was news to me too! 

The ‘Oh I thought I had dealt with that but I mustn’t have’ moment is exactly what happened to me two weeks ago, and what resulted was an influx of forgotten insecurities that flooded my memory once again. Feelings arose that reminded me what it once felt like to not feel adequate enough for someone. Feelings that reminded me that my former partner is out there living his life and is … HAPPY? 


Funnily enough, I too am happy in my new life, with my current partner who treats me like an absolute princess and who I love dearly. Having these emotions arise as a result of someone in your past causes a sense of guilt and confusion. It’s important to remember that this isn’t a reflection on the current relationship, rather feelings spawned completely from a subconscious repressed insecurity that had been pushed aside. 


The truth is, I do not harbor any feelings of wanting to get back with my ex, nor do I have any resentment towards him. You can work as hard as you like on yourself. Do the self care thing, see a therapist and talk to friends. But from time to time, little things will trigger the insecurities that have been embedded into your subconscious from a past relationship. 

And that’s totally okay. 

It doesn’t mean you still love them. 

It doesn’t mean you want to get back with them. 


My only advice is to be open and honest, particularly if you have moved on with a new partner. Open communication is our biggest asset and will be respected and appreciated by both sides. 

I can’t tell you if you’ll ever get over these insecurities. I myself don’t even know if it’s in the cards for me. What I can tell you however is to not dwell on these moments. Let them come, and let them go. 

Pick yourself up – and keep doing you. 

x love & light 

Cat 

Timing doesn’t heal all wounds

Crystal Castle & Shambhala Gardens

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All you crystal junkies out there, listen up! If you have never been to Byron Bay before, what I’m about to show you will BLOW YOUR MIND!

The Crystal Castle & Shambhala Gardens are located about 30 minutes away from Byron Bay in the town of Mullumbimby.

FUN FACT: Iggy Azalea was originally from Mullumbimby.

DOUBLE FUN FACT: Iggy Azalea’s actual birth name is Amethyst!

Well how bout dat, COINCIDENCE? I think NOT!

Crystal Castle is basically a theme park for all spiritual / crystal lovers out there. If you’re not open minded or into this kind of thing, save yourself the $28 entry fee. I understand it’s not for everyone. Wish I could say the same for me, but we all know that I loved every minute of it and walked away with $200 worth of crystals (special mention goes to Nick for the early Christmas present). Hi, my name is Catherine and I’m a crystal-holic. Don’t judge.

Ok, I promised myself not to ramble on with this post, I’d rather bombard you with beautiful pictures so you can all see the tranquillity and beauty of this place for yourselves. Make sure to visit if you’re ever in the area!

img_6152Crystal Guardians: World’s tallest geodes standing at 5.5m tall and weighing 20 tonnes.

  Rose quartz: Feeling the love.

Flower up: Garden walks.

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The Castle: How’s the serenity?

Om: World Peace Stupa.

Happy place: Crystals.

Oh Look!: More Crystals!

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Who dat, who dat?: Amethyst Cave.

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Last but not least: cash me outside in the bamboo reeds. So zen.

Hope you all enjoyed the humour and happy snaps within this post!

Remember to laugh & love this week.

Until next time,
Love & Light –

x Cat.

Crystal Castle & Shambhala Gardens

A Byron Retreat

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Within my last relationship, for as long as I can remember, all I wanted was to book a small holiday and getaway.  It didn’t have to be as big as travelling overseas, nor did we have to go interstate, I would have been happy retreating to a small Victorian beach town. There was something about going on an explorative adventure with the one I loved which really appealed to me. Critics will tell you to hold off on going away with your partner because it can ‘make or break’ you, but I never saw it that way. I saw it as an opportunity to create new memories, and gain new experiences, learn new things, smell new smells, and expand our pallet with the tastes of new regions.

Unfortunately, the more I wanted and expressed this to him, the less he wanted to go away with me. I couldn’t understand after being in a relationship with me for three years, why he was always dismissive and disinterested in the idea. When it came to his mates asking him to go on trips however, he would greet the topic with much more enthusiasm. Was there something wrong with me? Was I not fun enough? This issue alone caused an array of insecurities within me as I struggled to understand the cause of his indifference. Perhaps this was one of many red flags, which ultimately lead to the demise of our relationship.

>> Fast forward two years >>

Step by step, I take in the sights and smells of the lush green leafy environment around me. Walking trails leading us through age old rainforests provide a tranquil and calming surrounding, leaving us at one with nature. A wild wallaby greets us as we explore the trails and wild bush turkeys scurry along the paths. The buzzing sound of insects increase as we walk by ponds scattered with lily pads and lotus flowers. Native birds sing to each other amongst the treetops. Finally, we reach meditation point – a bench overlooking the water, the epitome of stillness and mindfulness. Despite being at the peak of a relapse with my anxiety – I feel so safe and happy, I’m finally away with someone I love.

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Nick asked me to be his girlfriend after dating exclusively for 9 months. To be honest, we were exclusive from the first day we met. I lay down the law pretty quickly one that one … hey, can you blame me for not wanting to share my men!? Luckily for me he doesn’t like sharing his women either! This set up automatically provided us with a foundation of trust that we were able to build upon as we continued to get to know one another.  As I alluded to in my previous post, I have never dated anyone who knows the full extent of my anxiety, until I met Nick. He has taught me that I am worthy of love and being cared for wholeheartedly, despite having an anxiety disorder. I don’t feel like I need to hide the extent of my anxiety from him, if anything, he encourages me to teach him more about it so we can work together to better manage it. I can’t tell you how reassuring it is to feel as though we are combating this as a team.

You can just imagine my excitement when Nick suggested we go on a little trip together – a little retreat to help us relax before the busy Christmas period. I think I teared up when the topic was suggested. To think that someone who I had been dating for 6 months ‘unofficially’ – wanted to go away with me! I almost had to look twice, behind me, to make sure he wasn’t talking to someone else! And despite feeling very anxious the morning we were leaving, Nick held my hand, told me he loved me for the first time and said that we will get through this together. He asked me to be his girlfriend in this moment. #keeper #goals

The Byron at Byron Bay Resort & Spa offered the perfect getaway for optimum relaxation and tranquillity. I highly recommend this resort for those considering visiting the Byron Bay region and surrounds. Essentially, the resort is built within luscious rainforests, so you truly feel as though you are living amongst the trees. Walking trails within the resort allow you to explore the various wildlife, trees and fauna and there is even a trail leading to a beautiful lake. Another trail leads you to the lovely Tallow Beach – where Nick and I were lucky enough to spot a baby whale.

I can’t stress enough how vitalising this trip was, not only in helping me with my anxiety, but also for our relationship. I believe the trip brought us closer together, it was a well-deserved holiday after a tumultuous previous year (2015).

Being at one with nature is good for the soul, and I really felt this to be true while we were in Byron. Next week, I will post about our beautiful visit to Crystal Castle and Shambhala Gardens. All you crystal lovers out there – keep an eye out for that one!

In conclusion, I want to speak to those of you unsure or afraid of going away with your partner. Stop doubting yourself and the integrity of the relationship. Get out there and make new memories. You might discover something new about yourself or your partner that makes you fall in love all that much more. As far as I’m concerned, you have nothing to lose, and everything to gain. Don’t let fear stop you from creating the best memories life has to offer.

Until next time,

Love & Light,

X Cat.

A Byron Retreat