As a young girl, I was always fascinated by glass gems, you know – the ones commonly found at the bottom of a fish bowl? It’s a pretty strange thing for a child to obsess over, but there was just something about their shape, colour and the feeling of energy when holding one in my hand that intrigued me. Although these gems are synthetically made and not sourced from the earth, they definitely acted as the catalyst for my fascination on all things crystal.
Throughout my current life transition and healing journey, I should not have been surprised when I started to feel a pull toward entering various crystal shops and exploring the vibrational power crystals can emit. Crystals have been used as a form of healing for hundreds of years and I wanted to find out more about this phenomena, particularly regarding their power to help the healing of a broken heart. I spoke to Jac Calvert, owner of The Little Crystal Shop to help shed some light on the beautiful world of crystal healing.
When dealing with matters of the heart Jac believes that many crystals can help with heartbreak specifically. Any heart energy stone will assist the healing process.
“By heart-energy stone, I mean any that are either pink or green, as both of those colours resonate with the heart chakra,” she says. As Jac explains, the heart chakra is where we hold onto our heartbreak until we let go of it.
Specifically, Jac recommends the following stones due to their healing properties and benefits:
- Rose Quartz
“Rose Quartz is the ‘love’ stone, it helps us to connect to unconditional love, and can help to feel love when the broken heart feels so unloved.”
- Clear Quartz
“Clear Quartz is the Master Healer crystal, and using it with any of the other crystals mentioned will amplify the energy of the other crystal.”
- Green Calcite
“Green Calcite is a beautiful heart-opening energy and again helps to connect to feelings of love. It is so important to open the heart chakra and feel love – what we feel is what we attract into our lives, so if we feel unloved, that is what we attract; if we feel loving and loved, that is what we attract.”
- Rhodochrosite“Rhodochrosite is a deep, gentle, loving healing crystal – it can help bring to the surface deeper issues that need to be resolved that may be blocking the flow of love into your life.”
- Rhodonite“Rhodonite is a heart chakra crystal and also a ‘feel better’ crystal – it has been called the Bach Flower Remedy of the mineral world.”
Jac recommends also adding various other stones to help in alternative ways – including Sunstone, Moonstone, Black Onyx, and Lepidolite (among many others).
“Sunstone is the best stone for lifting you out of any depressing thoughts. It has a beautiful uplifting energy and is an excellent crystal to pop under the pillow at night. Moonstone helps ride out the emotional ebbs and flows – they come, they go, just like the tides and when we can step back, detach from them a little while still feeling them, we can let them go without forcing them away or holding onto them,” she says.
“Black Onyx is a good crystal to strengthen the separation – so if you’re harbouring any thoughts of reuniting with your ex, leave this one out. It’s great for closure and getting on with life. Lepidolite is a wonderful energy for icky feelings – any sort of anxiety or worry, sadness or depression, all things that can arise in the heartbroken stage.”
It’s all well and good to know which crystals to bring into your life, but how can you make the most of their healing properties? Jac explains that there are a few easy ways to make the best use of crystal energy. “It’s always good to carry a piece on you if you can, which could be either a small piece in your pocket or if you can find your crystal as jewellery, you can wear it. This is especially good if you can get heart chakra stones in a necklace that sits at about the place of the heart chakra.”
Jac also suggests putting them under your pillow at night, so you can be get the benefits while you sleep. This is particularly a great way to use both Sunstone and Lepidolite.
“Holding a crystal during meditation is a very powerful way to work with their energy and this is where you might start to really ‘feel’ the energy of the crystal,” she says. “It might start to really buzz or pulse in your hand, or you might feel it working strongly on a certain part of your body. You can make crystal healing grids or layouts, if you have a few stones to work with. A nice option to help feel love again is to meditate while surrounded by a few Rose Quartz pieces, so you’re sitting in the centre, and allow yourself to really feel and sink into the loving energy and feel it merge with your own energy.”
As Jac explains, the heart chakra can often become poorly aligned fairly easily. Whether it be that it is over-functioning (too much giving and not allowing oneself to receive love) or under-functioning (closed, not open to love and not giving of love). “Working with any heart chakra crystal will help to re-balance the energies of the heart. It is often that we close our hearts after a painful experience, like a relationship breakup, which is simply a protective response to prevent us from getting hurt again. However, when we close our hearts, we close ourselves off to experiencing and feeling all love, so it’s really not beneficial at all.”
“Keeping an open heart means that we can let ourselves feel whatever we feel, without having to protect or defend ourselves – we just feel it, let it be and move on. Feelings pass surprisingly quickly when we let ourselves feel them, rather than pushing them away or bottling them up. Working with crystals can help in the heart opening part, as can visualising the heart as being open, and using an affirmation such as ‘my heart is open, it is safe for me to love’. Doing all of these things together is very powerful, and is a practice worth doing regularly.”
Such practice can really help in all areas of life, not just for relationship breakups but also with family, friends and work.
Out of curiosity, I asked Jac whether any crystals harvest bad energy. Sure, we hear about all the positive benefits of working with stones, but I was intrigued to find out whether there are any that people should avoid.
“There’s not really any such thing as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ energy – there is just different ranges of energy,” she says.
“Some are higher, some are lower, and yes, higher is preferable, but most of us go through phases of lower energy, and this is where we learn how to move out of it, and into higher energy. So no, crystals don’t harvest any ‘bad’ energy – not unless they have absorbed so much lower or toxic energy from their environment that they are giving off that energy, and this can happen. Usually, you will get a sense that a crystal has absorbed lower or negative energy and needs a cleanse, and it is good housekeeping for your crystals to clear them regularly anyway.”
Jac stresses that caution should be used when using some crystals, especially when working with higher chakras such as the third eye, crown and soul star. If you are not very well grounded, working with strong, higher energies can leave you feeling ungrounded. This is an unhealthy state to be in and can prove functioning in daily life to be more difficult.
“Moldavite is a big one to be aware of, and it’s probably best avoided if you’re just starting out with crystals. Selenite can be ungrounding if you’re sensitive, and any other crystal you find that works strongly with higher chakras can leave you feeling ungrounded.
CRYSTAL CLEANSING 101 with JAC CALVERT @the.little.crystal:
As Jac mentioned earlier, some crystals can absorb the energy from their surrounding environments due to clearing their environment by absorbing lower energies. Once the crystal becomes clogged with this lower energy, that is what they start to give off. This kind of energy is not helpful and your crystals will require recharging and cleansing.
“Just keeping up a regular cleansing routine your crystals should be enough (like a full moon cleanse) but from time to time, you might just start to feel that a crystal needs an extra cleanse. For instance if you wear Black Tourmaline to work and you work in a fairly negative environment, then it would be worth giving that crystal some extra clearing. Always listen to any feelings that tell you a crystal needs a cleanse; its your intuition guiding you.”
Crystals that don’t absorb energy from their environment include Selenite and Kyanites and therefore do not require cleansing. You can actually place other crystals on a piece of Selenite and leave it for a day or two as a method of cleansing.
- The simplest method to cleanse crystals is to put them outside under the full moon each month, and leave them out for the night if you can. Some crystals don’t like water, so be mindful of weather conditions, if it’s raining, keep them under a window inside the house or otherwise sheltered.
- Other cleansing options are putting them outside in the dirt for a few days, like under a tree, and letting them just be cleared by the energy of the Earth (much like when we get out into nature to clear our energy).
- You can also smudge crystals with sage until you feel the energy has cleared
- Hold them under running water until you feel that their energy has shifted (again, only for crystals that are not water soluble).
- You can even use sound to clear them, like with a singing bowl.
“I give my crystals reiki as this clears them and gives their energy a boost, so if you are attuned to reiki it’s a good method to practice. Even if you’re not attuned to reiki, you can hold your hands over your crystals and visualise white light going from your hands into the crystals to clear them, and pray that their energies be cleared – everyone has the ability to heal with their hands and use prayer and it’s a surprisingly powerful method,” explains Jac.
If there’s one takeaway from all of this useful information that Jac has provided, she asks you to remember the following;
“The world of crystals is huge, there are so many different crystals and minerals out there, and all with unique energetic vibrations that affect us in different ways. They are always helpful, and are nature’s gift to us to help us heal and grow. The main thing I would say when working with or using crystals is always to follow your intuition – if you’re drawn to a particular crystal, even if it doesn’t seem logical or it’s not the one you’re looking for, it’s worth paying attention and honouring that calling. The intuition knows best, the mind does not.”
To see Jac’s vast array of crystals, check out her shop here and be sure to follow her on Instagram @the.little.crystal for daily crystal inspo!