Numerology and YOU



Have you ever noticed how certain numbers find a way of reoccurring in your life? You look at the time and its 2:22. You glance at the temperature in your car and its 22.2 degrees. You then jump on Facebook and realise that your latest selfie has 222 likes. And did I mention the date happened to be the 22nd of the 2nd? OK – hold up, what is going on here? This can’t all be just a coincidence?

The truth is, every number has a meaning and their reoccurrence can often be a sign from the angels above. Alright relax, I won’t get too airy fairy – but the reoccurrence of any number, name, animal or any symbol in your life for that matter, are known as synchronicities.


The concept of synchronicity was first explained by psychiatrist Carl Jung, and it refers to certain events as “meaningful coincidences” if they occur with no causal relationship, yet seem to be meaningfully related.


Personally, the numbers 3 and 13 have often popped up within my life to the point where I am no longer surprised if I am seated at table number 13 or my seat number at a concert is the number 33. I also quite often come across 11:11. My life path number also happens to be the number 11. I wanted to find out more about the meaning of numerology and how it can help us within our lives. I spoke to numerologist, Doreen Van Boxtel from Sunz and Moonz Oracle about how numbers can affect us.

Doreen describes numerology as being the science of numbers in which every number has a meaning.

“It explains what our life contract is that we made before we were born, but not everyone believes in reincarnation. For those that do believe, numerology can be used as a tool to help us in our life,” she says.

“Pythagoras is the father of mathematics and is believed to have seen patterns and cycles in numbers and developed numerology. Numerology analyses the name to reveal the personality of the person. Numerology is also used to predict future cycles and transits using the name and date of birth. You can also use numerology for business names and your personal address.”


Doreen believes that the most important number to work out for yourself is your life path number as it explains what you are here to learn in this incarnation and it works to guide you in the right direction.

To work out your life path number you must add all the digits in your birth date together. Start by converting the month, day, and birth year to single digits and add them together. The exception to this rule is with the ‘Master Numbers’ 11 and 22. These numbers are not converted to single digits. The total sum is further reduced by adding the remaining digits together until a single digit is obtained, with exception to the master numbers.

Example: If you were born on October 12th 1936.

Month: October is the 10th month of the year. 10 reduces to (1 + 0 = 1)
Day: Date of birth is the 12th which reduces to (1 + 2 = 3)
Year: 1936 reduces to (1 + 9 + 3 + 6 = 19) (1 + 9 = 10) (1 + 0 = 1)
Add the single digit numbers – (1 + 3 + 1 = 5)
The life path number is 5.

For the meaning of your life path number, please enter your birth date in the calculator, here.

So how can our own personal numerology affect our relationships, particularly with our partners and lovers?

“If we know about numerology, it can help us become aware of the personality traits, life path and cycles in their life – and determine whether we are compatible or not,” says Doreen.

“It doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be with that person, it just means whether it will be an easy or a challenging relationship.”

Doreen uses the example of knowing that your partner is a natural born leader in life. If we know this through the composition of their numerological birth chart, we can assume that they won’t do too well taking orders. Similarly, someone who is sensitive and kind will not behave in an aggressive or domineering manner.

You should also be aware of what cycle your partner is going through, explains Doreen.

“Forewarned is forearmed. Everyone has their own decisions to make in life, so it is up to each person how they are going to react to each cycle or situation. Everyone has free will.”


In regards to using numerology post a break up, Doreen believes that it is best used as an indicator of what actions to take in the future. “There again you still have free will, nothing is written in stone. If you see an ending of something coming in the future, such as a job or relationship, you can take steps to change it if you feel you don’t really want the change.”

What about those reoccurring numbers I mentioned earlier? What on Earth do they mean?

“These are messages for the person receiving them, especially if it is their life path number. It could indicate that they are on the right path. It is also to make them become aware of the numbers and search for their meaning, in order to answer some of their questions they are seeking at the time they are receiving the numbers,” explains Doreen.


Doreen says that often, people will seek a numerologist to help answer some universal questions. “Why am I here? Who am I? Where will life take me in the future? Am I going to be more successful in the future or struggle all my life?”

“Every number in Numerology has positive and negative aspects. There is no best number or worst number to have in your birthday or name. Every number has lessons to overcome. I personally learned numerology to help me understand my four children. I knew I couldn’t change them but if I could understand them through numerology, it would make my life a bit easier,” says Doreen.


So there you have it, an insight to how numbers can affect your life. It pays to be aware of not only any patterns and synchronicities that are occurring, but also to know your own numerological chart. Knowing the positive and negative aspects of our predestined numerological fate can help us to face and overcome life challenges, as well as assert and encourage the growth of our positivities.

Doreen Van Boxtel is a Reiki/Seichim Master Teacher, Psychic, Numerologist and Crystal Healer.
She is located at Sunz and Moonz Oracle in Craigieburn, Victoria. To book a consultation please email // or call 0415558425. For more information visit the Sunz and Moonz Oracle website.



Numerology and YOU

Look good, feel good Friday’s – 26/2/16

For today’s LGFGF’s post I’m going to feature a cheeky lace dress I bought from a little Asian store a couple years back. I wore this at a 50th birthday recently and the outfit made me feel fun, flirty and confident!
I love the cheeky cut out at the front and how the lace material drapes down at the back. I can’t believe I’ve only ever worn this twice! This is such a great take on the Little Black Dress and shows that the humble LBD need not be boring!

Dress: Central Line

Shoes: Lipstik

Inspo behind LGFGF’s: I have always enjoyed splurging on a new outfit every now and again and I now have good reason to. As my therapist noted, you could be feeling crappy and down but try make the effort to get out of bed, wash your face, dress in an outfit that makes you feel great and smack on that coloured lippy. The simple process of staying active by getting ready works wonders for your mental health. There’s no doubt that when you look good, you tend to feel good so I’ve dubbed my Friday’s as such.

Look good, feel good Friday’s – 26/2/16

What’s in a soul mate?


It’s natural after a break up to question whether soul mates really do exist. The inner cynic rears its ugly head and we tend to question our core beliefs and values. Maybe there isn’t someone for everyone? Maybe some of us are destined to be alone in this life? I know personally, that the fear of being alone – especially post break up – is a daunting reality that many of us face at some point in our lives.

While going through this transition I came across a book titled ‘Soul Mates’ written by Jenny Smedley.


Smedley is an international columnist and psychic advisor and I was curious to read her advice on the topic. For the purposes of this post, I will discuss the various types of soul mates according to Smedley. There is quite a lot of information to absorb on this topic alone, and this highlights only a small aspect of the book. In future posts, I will draw on this text again so you can gain some more insight into the realm of soul mates.



YOU HAVE DIFFERENT TYPES OF SOUL MATES! If you thought having only one was hard work – boy do I have news for you!

“I believe there are four main types of soul mate… each play a different role in your life, helping you to become a complete and balanced person with joy in your heart,” Smedley writes.

According to Smedley, these four categories of soul mates are as follows:

  1. The Eternal Flamesoulmate-and-life-partners~ This is how many people define their soul mate. The person who feels like the other half of you.
    ~ They know what you’re thinking and offer unconditional love.
    ~ No battlefields, only minor skirmishes in order for both souls to learn lessons.
    ~ There will be no unfaithfulness because their love is found from a deeper soul level.
    ~ Each one feels the joy and pain of the other.

“However, not everyone will find this kind of soul mate in every life they live because the strong dependency that can be formed isn’t always a good thing and might not be right at this particular stage of their existence. Because of this, we may live some lifetimes apart from our Eternal Flame, just to make sure that we can learn to rely on ourselves and not on someone else.”

So how do you know if they’re your Eternal Flame? Smedley believes the difference lies in how you feel. If you feel uncomfortable in any way by someone’s advances, there’s a danger of being swept off your feet into a relationship that can potentially drown you spiritually. You need to be comfortable with this soul mate and shouldn’t feel the need to have space in order to recover from their presence. Look out for a feeling of ‘coming home’ when meeting someone new rather than a lightning bolt of passionate attraction.



  1. Twin Flametwin-flame-lovers-fire-soul-mates~ A step down from the Eternal Flame – a twin soul is often the most confusing type of mate because despite love being apparent, the decision needs to be made about whether it will last and help you achieve what you need to in life.
    ~ The confusion stems from the two of you being alike in so many ways. You are literally a mirror image of each other and closely connected on a soul level.
    ~ This has the effect of feeling like the two halves complete one another OR it can have the opposite effect, in which similar personally traits can cause arguments, or both may want to be the dominant or submissive one, ultimately not giving the other what they need.

“They’ll make you feel comfortable because in a past life they were probably your friend or partner, and it’s tempting to think you can just take up where you left off… But this is where the trouble can come, because often you’re together just to help each other out, and you’re not meant to be lifelong partners.”



  1. Teacher Soul MateFullSizeRender(3)~ They will come into your life, usually temporarily to enable you to learn something vital to your souls progress.
    ~ They won’t normally be a partner although this can sometimes happen and the relationship can be challenging and difficult. The lesson can be harsh as a result.
    ~ Once the lesson has been given, the teacher will vanish as mysteriously as they appeared and this can upset and confuse you.

“There is a saying, ‘When the pupil is ready, the teacher will appear.’”


  1. Comforter Soul MateFullSizeRender(1)~ They can step into your life just to say a specific thing, to bring comfort and companionship when you’re feeling alone or when you’re in need of advice to help you make a difficult decision.
    ~ They think the same way as you do and are always there for you, but you never see them as potential partners.
    ~ Often the opposite sex, yet there is no sexual chemistry between the two of you. The definition of a true platonic relationship.
    ~ Does not even need to be human – can even be a pet or animal.


“If you believe, as I do, that animals have souls, then they have also had past lives. If you can accept that they’ve had past lives, then you have to accept that they’ve known people during those lives and that some of them come back to bring comfort to people who would otherwise be alone.”

Throughout the text, Smedley draws upon real life accounts of individual’s soul mate stories. It is definitely worth a read, and will clarify any questions you may have about differentiating between soul mates.


I hope you find this information just as useful as I did when first reading it. Most of us are unaware that we do not only have one soul mate in our lives. Rest assured, should you not find your eternal flame in this life time, another type of soul mate will be pulled to you either for companionship, to teach or to comfort.

Please like and share this post or comment below with your thoughts on this topic, or share your own experiences about any soul mates you may have come across.

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What’s in a soul mate?

Sorry, its crystal charging night

The full moon is upon us! Don’t forget to leave your crystals out tonight on a natural surface. Lady Luna will help to cleanse and recharge your crystals from the negative energy they have absorbed throughout the month.

You can also place a bowl full of water outside and collect the water in the morning. Pour it in a jar, and there you have your own magical cleansing liquid for use at any time during the  month!

Given this months full moon falls on the date 222 – it’s meaning is a reminder to keep faith, and that all of the letting go and releasing that that you are doing is on the right path. This is the most cleansing moon of the year, so let go of everything that’s dimming your shine. 

x Peace, love & light.

Sorry, its crystal charging night

Look good, feel good Friday’s – 19/2/16

Please excuse my slack ass for not doing one of these for a while. Trust me, I’m quite often all dolled up – it’s finding a personal photographer at any given moment which constantly proves to be difficult!

Nevertheless, I’m committed to the cause that is LGFGF’s, so I promise to make more of an effort to get my act together and take some happy snaps!

Today I’m featuring an outfit I wore on Valentines Day. A couple of friends of mine decided it might be a nice idea to go out for lunch, some cocktails and a movie – since we are all single. I must admit, it was my first Valentines Day in many years in which I was single and I actually had the BEST time.

As a side note, (I know I’m getting off track) – I carried this beautiful rose quartz crystal with me on the day and it brought me an abundance of happiness, love and joy.


But More on crystals later… (hint hint – future post).

My girlfriend described my outfit as very Parisian, I’ll thank the skirt for that. I felt very girly and flirty in this little number and the red lippy, as always, lifted my spirits like you wouldn’t believe! Just the perfect combination for V-day!

Enjoy lovers! x






Top: Bardot

Skirt: The Bronze Snake

Shoes: Diana Ferrari

Inspo behind LGFGF’s: I have always enjoyed splurging on a new outfit every now and again and I now have good reason to. As my therapist noted, you could be feeling crappy and down but try make the effort to get out of bed, wash your face, dress in an outfit that makes you feel great and smack on that coloured lippy. The simple process of staying active by getting ready works wonders for your mental health. There’s no doubt that when you look good, you tend to feel good so I’ve dubbed my Friday’s as such.

Look good, feel good Friday’s – 19/2/16


Visualisation is a great tool for those wanting to envisage and achieve their goals. Like meditation, It can also be utilized to focus the mind and calm the soul. Visualisation is based on the premise of conceive – believe – achieve.

It invites you to focus on specific images, and can involve the notion of traveling through a landscape.

Image credit: Vincent Cogliandro.


The tug of war


Upon the demise of my own relationship and in speaking to others about their own break ups, it goes without saying that individuals deal with love, loss and grief in different ways.

Why is it that some of us try hold on to a friendship post break up, while others turn their back on the one they loved and run a mile – as if they never you knew them? It’s an age old debate that has divided many. Can exes be friends?

I personally think this is a very difficult thing to do. Sure, there are some cases of this scenario working, but I believe these are the exception.

Throughout my three year relationship, He would always insist that should we ever break up, he would want to maintain a friendship with me. I was openly hesitant to the idea, I didn’t think it would be possible for me to do. How on earth could I remain friends with a man I loved, only to watch him move on and be happy with someone else?
Ironically, when we did part ways, it was me who wanted to try and salvage a friendship, but he completely turned his back on this idea and me. To be fair, I think I wanted a friendship for the wrong reasons. Perhaps if I stayed in his life, he would give our relationship another chance, I thought. I’m thankful he had the guts to cut ties, even though I considered it nasty and cruel at the time.

But what baffled me the most, was how easy he made it seem to just switch off the light, and act as though I wasn’t an important part of his life over the last three years. Why is it that some of us have the ability to mimic a horse that bolts after a fright – running a mile and never looking back?

The reality is, if I had it within me to cut ties this easily, the relationship would have ended a long time ago. And so, you put up with the pain, the unhappiness, the repressed feelings and the cycle continues until your mind, body and soul become emotionally exhausted.
I found myself in a similar situation last week. As mentioned in a previous post, the guy I had been seeing over the last few months decided it would be best for us to remain friends for now. Granted, I still have my own things to work through, however I am putting myself out there and getting the support I need.

Unfortunately he has his own fears as well but is yet to seek a helping hand. And so, I found myself in the same cycle of hurt and repressed feelings, questioning everything he said (or didn’t say) to me. Reading into things, and overthinking his actions. All these factors coupled with some unfortunate information which came to my attention lead me to my breaking point.

It took every once of strength in my body to tell him that I could no longer be friends with him for now. I’m hopeful that in a couple of months time, my feelings for him will have subsided and a friendship will be able to continue. But for now, space is what I need.

I never thought I’d have it in me to break the cycle. And while I haven’t cut contact completely, it took a lot of effort on my part to distance myself so dramatically.

The sad part is, I know he cares about me quite a lot, but if he’s going to continue running away from his true feelings while I face mine and keep hurting myself in the process, it’s simply unfair. It’s unfair on me, to do this to me. I needed to stop leading myself into rejection and a big part of my therapy was learning to acknowledge my self worth.

Sometimes, we need to be a little more selfish and not so selfless all the time and that’s bloody hard for an empath to do. As they say, nothing worth having ever comes easy. But I am deserving of self love and self care in order for someone else to give me the same, and you are certainly deserving of this too. I had to do this, as a favour to myself.

“There’s nothing wrong with trying to hold on and there’s nothing wrong with letting go. The trick is deciding which one is best for you.”

Please be mindful of how your relationships make you feel whether it be with family, partner or friends. But be even more aware of the changes you can make for you – to better yourself and potentially the relationship in question. If it’s not serving you as it once did, don’t cling onto the hope that things will change. You have every right to make the decision yourself, and turn your back. Do your soul a favour, and take that leap of faith.

The tug of war